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Three Steps Towards Becoming A Man

The three easy steps to improve your life and become a better man.

First Step: Think Manly

Think about the type of man you’ve always wanted to be, inside then out:

  • Who does he look like?
  • How does he act?
  • What makes him happy?
  • What does he eat?
  • Where does he eat?
  • How does he dress?
  • How does he think?
  • Where does he work?
  • Why is he different from every other guy?

And become him.

Most of the time self-improvement starts at the gym and ends at the dinner table. But first, I recommend you actually take some time to do some maintenance inside. Your internal dialog should always be positive and confident, when the world beats you up enough, stop giving yourself the cerebral black-eye. More importantly, surround yourself with people that build you up, not cut you down.

Second Step: Dress Dapper

Pick a person who’s style you admire, and model your own style after theirs. Maybe even combine two or three famous men who’s taste in clothing you respect. Make sure that you have similar body types. And create a visual list of clothing pieces you would like to add to your arsenal of clothes. I cannot stress this enough, but make sure that you are constantly improving, your appearance as well as your style. When you start to make these improvements you’ll see why it’s so crucial in your mission to becoming a better man.

Via Lionsgate UK
Via Lionsgate UK

Third Step: Live a Macho Life

This touches on the point I made in the first step, surrounding yourself with people that build you up. If you have a friend that you’ve always thought, “he’s got it all figured out,” then ask him about the tools that helped him build the man that he is today. Don’t be afraid to develop a team of people that have qualities you admire. Through your interactions with them you would have already become a better man. Go out and do all the things you think a man should be doing, chopping wood and catching fish with your bare hands. Be an active member of the world, join rec teams, and seek out a new experience away from the computer.  Because that’s very macho.

Macho is as Macho does, take note from Clint Eastwood
Macho is as Macho does, take note from Clint Eastwood Via United Artists


Color Guides: Red

There are at least ten colors a man must learn how to master if he is going to succeed as a sharp dresser, and here we begin a sequence that teaches you the steps to mastering each of them.  We will begin at the broad end of the visible spectrum with the warmest and broadest of the colors: red.  Red is not the first color that comes to mind when a man gets dressed- it’s too bold, too angry, too exciting and energetic.  Red is not the color you want to wear in a suit to an interview, for example.  However, precisely because red is so bold, it has its place in a wardrobe as a statement piece.

Limit your use of red to a single item of clothing that you want to really pop, the element of your wardrobe that you want people to see coming from a hundred yards off.  In the Summer, or even the Fall, try it in a pair of pants sitting below a navy blazer and a white shirt; you might even try the famous salmon-pink-red known as Nantucket Red.

You might also try some red up top, in the form of a sweater under a navy blazer or a gray tweed sport coat; this is the pop of color we alluded to before, the burst of bold styling in an otherwise inconspicuous wardrobe that will announce you to the world as a man of taste and sophistication.  As was the case with red pants, keep the rest of your outfit subdued: a simple blazer or sport coat, pants in khaki or brown or gray, a white shirt, and a sober tie.  Think of it as an exercise in precision, your demonstration that you can express yourself without losing control of your appearance.

You might wish to limit your use of red to a single necktie in your suit or smart casual ensemble.  Red neckties have long been associated with politicians, somewhat negatively at that, but this should not deter you from tying one on when wearing a gray or a brown suit.  If the thought of simple red in a necktie is too garish for you, we recommend a more subdued shade, like crimson or burgundy, perhaps with a pattern or a stripe, or used with a fabric other than silk, wool or cashmere coming to mind.  Use your reds with care, and they’ll take care of you.